Many people believe you have to make major life changes in the beginning of every year! Changes in areas such as improving your physical appearance, becoming a better person or strengthening areas of weakness. Well,… me?... I’m just looking to improve my “Sweet Spot!” Yup, that’s it! I’m looking to improve in areas of life I’m already doing and doing well for 2017!
I stopped making “New Year Resolutions” years ago, because I, just like most, only keep them for short periods of time and then I fall off the bandwagon. All intention is there and even the motivation for beginning the process, “duh” that’s why the idea becomes a resolution in the first place. But what I have found over the years is that I always make resolutions around things that I should do, but I don’t really like doing or even do well; things like learning to run or jog, learning to workout more consistently, or even crazy stuff like trying to be more content just staying home (Which in my case is virtually impossible J)
Would I love to do these things, especially the things that improve my health, of course; but here is the kicker, I don’t like doing them, I don’t do them well, and at this age in my life I will probably never like doing them or do them well!
So that brings me to today, a place of defeat and determination at the same time. I am tired of feeling defeated by not following through but I am determined to improve my life… but only in areas I like doing and I do well; basically “Sweetening My Spot(s)!”
Your “Sweet Spot”! What is that? Your “Sweet Spot”,is the place (or thing) where a combination of factors results in a maximum response for a given amount of effort! Basically, the place where you are doing what you like doing, doing it well and gaining a maximum response from doing it. You see, I learned a long time ago to stop focusing on what I can’t do and start focusing on what I can do and do it to the best of my ability; thus finding my “Sweet Spot”! So, for me that would be concrete areas such as counseling, writing, researching (etc). (Now encompassed in those areas are my character traits such as compassion, empathy, (etc) but not to get too deep…J). Now if you don’t know what your “Sweet Spot” is and you need to discover it, that’s another blog for another time! I’ll keep you posted!
But if you know your “Sweet Spot(s)”, then why not make your resolutions around improving or expanding those areas. Why try and reinvent the wheel whenyou are already driving in a Bugatti or I’ll go lower and even say a Jag (at least you are on your way with a Jag); and if you know every year by February you have aborted your resolution then why keep putting yourself through the pain and torture of repeating it. Why not just sweeten the part of your life you are already doing and doing well.
For example, let’s say working out is your “Sweet Spot” and you are getting maximum results (financially, socially, etc) from doing it, but you see ways to improve it, why not make resolutions around that area of your life. You could make a resolutions to build a training curriculum by February or start working on a business plan to expand the business one week or one month at a time. Basically,by focusing your New Year Resolution(s) around doing things you like doing and do well, you are not only setting goals for yourself for the new year, and changing your life, you are “Sweetening Your Sweet Spot(s)”, and may even succeed at accomplishing your Resolutions this year!
So it’s not too late to redefine your goals or New Year Resolutions, we are only half way through January;… so take becoming a body builder off your list if you know baking cakes and eating them is something you do and you do well; take talking to people more off your list too, if you know you are more of an introvert and you get your energy from within and not from people; and make your resolutions “Sweet Spot” directed goals!
Now, I’m not saying don’t push yourself to do things outside of your comfort zone, (because challenging yourself does make you grow) but when it comes to making New Year Resolutions, if you find that every year for the past 10 years you have tried the same things and failed over and over again… well you know Einstein’s definition of insanity, “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”… and I’ll leave that there!
So, if you keep attempting and failing each year, then… mmm… let’s try something different! This year let’s try to make Resolutions around areas of your life you love doing and you do well,… This year let’s make New Year Resolutions to “Sweeten Your Sweet Spot(s)!”
Love, Kisses and Teacups!
Always In His Grace!